It is early on New Years day as I write this and countless couples around the world have celebrated the beginning of the 2012 with a peck, a smooch or a full on lip lock. This year I chose to decline various invitations to do the cliché club celebration, and opt for Catholic Mass and a quiet evening with Dick Clark.
However a few days ago I shared an amazing pre New Years smooch with a great guy… which has led to this article. I am completely astounded by the way he kisses, and even though we are not at the point where I’d want to spend New Years with him, I would have made it out to wherever he was to kiss him at midnight… just because it is that good!
Perhaps it was seeing various couples ringing in the new year with kisses, or perhaps it was the residual glow from alone time with a certain guy, but it motivated me to investigate the inner workings of a kiss. In the book The Science of Kissing: What Our Lips Are Telling Us, author Sheril Kirshenbaum investigates the biological reactions of a kiss… who knew a simple romantic gesture could be so complex! Apparently within a kiss, there is a surge of biological reactions. Research has shown that kissing raises levels of neurotransmitters in the brain such as dopamine and serotonin making our bodies connect on a chemical level. The kiss also conjures oxytocin, referred to as the “love hormone,” since it is usually triggered by orgasms… isn’t science fun???
But what I wanted to know, was what it was that made my guy's kiss so utterly mind blowing, and oh so irresistible to me. I mean this is so good that I turned to science to explain my physical reactions to this man. He makes me feel like I’m in high school again, stirring up all these hormones, driving me wild, and reminding me what it feels like to be absolutely enraptured in passion… Since he’s a Pisces, a fellow water sign … he knows just how to get a Scorpion wet. Oh yes I went there.
So to give a fair comparison I had to evoke the memories of recent Kisses, my last partner unfortunately was not so good … lets take a trip down memory lane…
(CAUTION… Graphic Details)
In comparison, my last relationship, the one that made me swear off Gemini’s forever, dragged on for months. It was a slow and painful wreck I saw coming, but stubbornly ignored the signs because I was hoping that I would eventually feel something, anything but disdain. One sign I should have paid attention to was the kiss. For a while I thought I was doing something wrong… my Ex had no problems blaming me for every single issue… but I digress. Now that I have the most mind blowing physical experiences with my New Boo, I see that the Ex was the one with the problem.
So back to my Gemini Ex, I don’t know if it was my lack of physical attraction to him, or maybe the way he tasted or smelled, which wasn't bad or offensive, but I cringed every time he leaned in with his lips pursed, aiming for mine. I hated the way his thin, wet lips felt against me, with his tongue flapping lightly as if a kitten was lapping up milk. Are you getting that gruesome picture? Well here’s one more detail, he always had this 5 o’clock shadow that chaffed against my chin, cheeks and lips, feeling like sand paper rubbing my face raw.
The Ex hated when I wore lipstick and he refused to kiss me with make up on. So guess what I did… often I slathered on the gooiest, most sparkly lipstick and lip gloss, making sure to pop in some chewing gum, so that I had another layer of protection to guard against my Ex’s oral assaults. But with him, kissing was so mechanical. His arm would be at his side, maybe around my shoulders or resting lightly on my waist. It always occurred when we would say goodbye, never spontaneous or organically rendered from a romantic moment together. It was cold and contrived. He was an air sign… makes sense because air and water (I’m water) create hurricanes, snowstorms and so many of the worst natural disasters… just like our relationship.
BUT with the New Dude…
…its the first time in my life that I’ve been absolutely gratified by just a kiss. Although everything else is just as mind blowing… those juicy details will be tackled in another blog… I just feel so amazing with him before, during and after he kisses me. I'll do my best to capture this with details, but as we all know words sometimes can't express a feeling, especially one this strong...
So to start, he's not to much taller than me, making this a comfortable hight, where with or without high heels, we are both a the perfect lip alignment, lol. We both have pretty much the same size lips... medium, soft not wet, pillowy and inviting... and yes I realize I just complimented myself.
His lips are perfect, not too plump, really soft. He tastes so good and so natural, yet he always as fresh breath... not in the way that makes him smell and taste like Scope mouthwash. I think what I like is his technique, he makes it seem so effortless, like a natural chemistry we have together.
First he gives me a look like he is ready to devour me. Depending on the light, his eyes are this piercing grey color and I become so entranced as he comes closer. He starts by putting his hands on me, but also tugging lightly at my hair, clothes whatever, just to let me know where this is going. He begins slow, pressing his lips against mine, alternating between light and rough, sometimes lightly biting my lips. I never thought I'd like that, but I do!
I love it when he pushes me up against a wall, bed, chair, door anything, feeling him against me, touching all the right spots like he’s reading my mind. I don’t know if it’s the way he grabs a hold of me, running his hand over my body, he squeezes me and pulls me closer to him but every single move feels perfect and pleasurable.
Sometimes I don’t believe its real, so I open my eyes just to peek at what he’s doing, his are always closed, like he’s totally in the moment. When we are taking a breather, his eyes stay locked on my lips as if he can’t wait to latch on again. He’s not aggressive at all, and I feel so at ease with him, but I do like that he knows just how far to go without making a simple kiss into something overtly sexual. I mean that would be fine, Hello I am a Scorpio… but sometimes a girl just wants to know she’s desired, and not only for sex. Kissing this man is some type of intimacy that I’ve never experienced before. THIS IS PASSION… Oh and did I mention he’s Latin?
Upon reflection, I realize that after a rough year and the closing of a tumultuous passionless relationship, this man was and this experience was such a gift. Thank you universe for putting our two compatible signs together. I've been waiting so long to feel this way... something so indescribable. He makes me feel amazing... so much that everyone in my life as noticed a change in my energy, complexion outlook etc. I still don't know what the future holds for us, but what I do know is that I like what is happening now, and the way his energy has affected mine.
So what do you think… Is this truly a chemical reaction that I’m having? Am I hopped up on too much natural dopamine, serotonin and oxytocin that I can barely think of a better blog topic? Am I just being a sensual Scorpio, obsessing and reading too mch into this… or can he be THE ONE?
No probably not… is the answer to the last question.
Krishenbaum investigates a great topic… one that I would be happy to explore further with my Boo... so if I ever write a second part to that book please purchase!
Happy New Year all... and Happy Kissing!
